TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR PUBLIC SPEAKING AND TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE

Do you ever find yourself:

  • Dreading work meetings
  • Getting clammy hands and shaky legs when making group presentations
  • Losing your words even though you know the information
  • Feeling jealous of others who can act and communicate like experts, even when they're not   

When you can master your public speaking skills, you’ll notice that life gets easier (and more fun). You’ll have more confidence, knowing you can express yourself in all situations whether you're in front of an audience, at a business meeting, hanging out with friends or on a hot date. You’ll feel more powerful and that will be expressed in your words and actions.  Being a better speaker is also the key to telling great stories and influencing those around you.  

Using Hypnosis To Re-channel Anxiety and Nervousness

Nervousness, anxiety and fear are just forms of energy.  These feelings serve to protect you and they are not inherently good or bad. They become problematic when they begin to interfere with your performing at your best.  Some of my clients want to completely get rid of their nervousness or anxiety, but the key is learning to work with these feelings to your advantage, rather than against them.  

It’s interesting to look at emotions as both simultaneously real and not real.  You can’t cut an emotion out of your body and observe it in a petri dish.  Yet when experiencing your emotions, they feel very real.  Hypnosis allows you to have more control over your emotions, so you can let go of the negative charges and redirect that energy in a more positive direction.  In some situations it may be appropriate to turn up a certain emotion, while turning down another.  Having these subconscious mind tools will give you more control and flexibility to stay present and engaged when speaking and interacting with others.    

I’ve been there... In addition to being a hypnotist, I’ve been a professional musician for most of my adult life.  I understand what it's like to be terrified before an important gig or audition.  I can remember my hands shaking so hard that I almost lost it in the middle of a performance.  I see it time and time again with top level performers.  It’s important to develop your artistry, but once you do that, it’s the mental game that will take you to the next level.   Most of life is a mental game and when you can master your thoughts and emotions, you can master anything you set your mind to accomplish.  

My clients include business executives, students, entrepreneurs, stand up comics, singers, classical/jazz instrumentalists and teachers.  Hear how they’ve taken back control and improved their lives: < Testimonials >  

If you're interested in learning more, check out this 10-minute Self-Hypnosis session to help you improve your public speaking skills.  

Also, check out this article from New York magazine, “Has hypnosis finally been vindicated by neuroscience?” Fascinating stuff!

 

To your best self,

 

David

YOU ARE BEING HYPNOTIZED!

Did you know?...

  • Average Americans watch 5 hours and 4 minutes of TV per day.
  • Television is the most powerful hypnosis machine out there.

What we see and read on TV trains us what to think, how to feel, what to buy and who to vote for.  If you think you are free and in total control of your thoughts, I am sorry to say but you are disillusioned; even if you don’t watch TV.   Advertising, media, politics, friends, and upbringing influence our daily lives tremendously.  The most effective influencers and persuaders work in sales, marketing, politics and media; and even they are subject to influence and persuasion.  Hypnosis is a state that we all go in and out of every day.  Learning how to embrace hypnosis to access your subconscious mind will allow you to become more aware of how you’re being influenced and ultimately give you more control over what you choose to think about.  In this article I will explain why hypnosis is important and then leave you with a practice to help you start to take back control of your mind from unwanted influences.

Power of your mind:

There are lots of myths around hypnosis and because of TV and movies, many people are led to believe that hypnosis is trickery or involves loss of control.  On the contrary, hypnosis is about choice.  It enables you to take back control of those parts of your mind that have either been operating unconsciously or have led you to negative beliefs and unproductive habits.  The subconscious mind is unable to discern good from bad, productive from unproductive.  When you learn to access your subconscious mind, you can reprogram your beliefs to take you from where you are, to where you want to be.  

How your subconscious and conscious minds work:

Your subconscious mind takes in thousands of bits of information every second, while your conscious mind can handle up to 10 pieces of information at any time (and that’s when you’re relaxed and focused). When you’re conscious mind is filled with stress, anxiety and fear; the amount of information you’re able to process plummets to 2 or 3 things at a time.  This is why your subconscious mind is so powerful.  You are cognizant, listening and taking in information; even when you’re unaware.  

All hypnosis is self-hypnosis:

Hypnosis is simply focused attention and awareness.  It’s important to not only be able to imagine change and the outcomes you want, but to also be able to experience the emotions of what it would feel like to make those changes.  We are our own most powerful hypnotists and my job is to teach you how to become better at it, so you can manifest the life you desire.  

This Self-Hypnosis exercise is a good first step toward helping you change your subconscious mind and lead you towards the outcomes you desire:

Click Here For This Free Self-Hypnosis Guide

If you would like to learn more about hypnosis and how it can help you transform your life, please visit.  www.inspiredlivinghypnosis.com

You can also check out how Darren Brown used influence and persuasion to steer advertising executives towards the idea he wanted.  Powerful stuff!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQXe1CokWqQ

Build Massive Confidence & Be The Guy Who Gets What He Wants

Do you take things too personally and let your emotions get the best of you?  Do you look for validation from others?  Are you afraid of getting rejected?  Maybe you can relate to this scenario:

You're out with your friends at a club doing your thing and then all of a sudden there she is -- a gorgeous woman standing at the end of the bar.  You can’t keep your eyes off her. You try not to stare, but can’t help yourself.   As you think about approaching her, you get a surge of fear in the pit of your stomach.  You freeze as your body starts to sweat.  

Those voices in your head start sounding..."I could never get a woman like that.  I don’t know what to say.  I can't possibly have anything in common with her -- she’s too perfect."  You watch her for the rest of the night, but never muster up the courage to approach her.  You missed your opportunity and for the rest of the week, you're beating yourself up.  Sound familiar?

Guys do this because they're afraid of getting hurt, rejected or disregarded.  In order for a man to navigate the world confidently, he must find the space inside himself of worthiness and self love.   Feeling unworthy is the source of most obstacles in life.  Of course we all want to be liked, seen and heard, especially by the opposite sex.  When a man is confident and has positive self regard, he can stay relaxed, playful and curious.  His aim isn’t to please others or look outside himself for validation.  Instead he is excited to see how life will unfold.  

I’m not going to give you scripts or advice about how to pick up women.  You can find that information on the internet ad nauseam.  I’m going to share with you tried and true ways for becoming the man who gets what he wants.   

1. Learn to dance

Yes, men...I said it.  Take a dance class...and not some free-for-all dance party or anything of the ecstatic sort, but a full-fledged, formal dance class...where YOU, the man, must LEAD.

I see so many men struggle with taking the lead in their romantic relationships. Two people cannot lead at the same time and it’s important to know which role you want to take up. In a romantic relationship, it's the man who should lead. This is not about control, but about guiding someone to their full expression. When a man has the balls to step up and lead, a woman can let go and express her femininity.  By his nature, a man must initiate, guide and ask for what he wants.  A relationship where there is a struggle for power is doomed, unless the man can stand up and assert himself.  Partner dancing is a great way to understand and incorporate the subtle and powerful dynamics of leading within a relationship.  It will also teach you how to be in your body, trust your intuition, remain humble and, most importantly, let go and have fun.  By becoming more self aware, you will have the inner confidence to lead yourself and others.  

2. Join a men’s group

For thousands of years, cultures have encouraged male bonding and created ways to pass on wisdom and traditions.  We have lost these connections in modern times and have been forced to learn about masculinity on the playground, through our parents or by guessing.  Men's groups are a place where we can express our fears, anger, sadness and even joy in a healthy, productive way.  It’s where we can get honest, receive no bullshit feedback and figure ourselves out.  If you have a group in your town, join it.  If not, round up a bunch of guys and commit to helping each other go after your dreams and ambitions.    

3. Get out in nature

Nature separates the men from the boys very quickly.  If you're a city guy like me, you’ll learn very quickly that you don’t know shit if you don’t have survival skills like how to keep yourself alive when the weather gets bad or when you’re climbing dangerous terrain.  Going out and exploring nature is not only a huge confidence builder, but it will give you a greater sense of what it means to be human; and the great beauty and power of mother nature.  

4. Take a martial arts class

Learn how to give a hit and take one too.  Too many sensitive guys avoid confrontation and are unable to stay in tense situations without getting taken advantage of or feeling ashamed.  Knowing how to defend yourself gives you the mindset that you can hold your own.  It’s much deeper than being able to do a particular move.  When you know your power, you'll feel confident, more relaxed, present, alert and, in many cases, avoid trouble without getting injured.  The state of our physical body affects our mental state, so when we are feeling physically powerful, we will act like it.  

5. Travel alone to a foreign country

Traveling alone helps get you out of your comfort zone quickly.  You’re forced to navigate your surroundings, make new friends and learn new traditions.  Your senses will be heightened as you travel to places with new smells, tastes, and languages. No matter how old you are, traveling alone forces you to grow up and discover yourself.  You’ll have a better understanding of what’s important, what you need and can let go of.  

These are not quick and easy ways to build confidence over night.  They are tools that will help you be vulnerable to build character, self worth and true confidence.  Try one or all of these activities and you will find yourself a changed man for the better.